There’s a saying that goes: If you want help getting things done, ask a busy person. And there is something to that. Its easy to get things done when you’re going and going all the time. But it’s also easy to get overwhelmed, which makes you want to say No.
There’s a lot of advice about learning how to say NO to things. As a former yesser, I know how easy it can be to get overwhelmed by all the things you add to your day. But the answer to being overwhelmed by Yes isn’t to blanket everything with No.
You can be mindful about this. And you should seek balance in this, as in all things.
Here is where your goal-setting can really help you make a difference in your productivity, your desire, and the ease with which you achieve your goals.
Check out your master list of goals for the year. Don’t have one yet? That’s ok. Take a minute and think about three things you want to achieve by this time next year.
Now, think about the invitations, requests, activities, classes, and jobs you’re interested in or that are coming up. Think about activities you can join that you’ve been on the fence about. Think about people you know who are involved with these things. Identify the things that align with your goals and say yes to those things first.
There is a fabulous synergy that comes when a lot of your time is spent in the areas of your life outlined in your goals. You gain clarity this way and can dig deeper into the things you’ve chosen to spend your time on.
But what if no matter what you do, you can’t align your Yes time with your goals? You’re mindful of the yes things, and trying to stay focused, but nothing is working. It doesn’t feel right.
That’s a tough one when it happens, and it takes a bit of perspective, I think. We move through seasons in our lives, and things are always changing. Sometimes, we want to achieve certain things that aren’t feasible or realistic at this point on our life. Kids are born, jobs change, illness strikes, family needs you, life happens…
Here’s where you allow yourself to pivot and adjust. Maybe some of your goals need to be put off a while. Maybe you need to break a goal into smaller goals and focus on the piece that is realistic for you at this stage.
The important thing here is to check in with yourself and allow yourself permission to shift. Don’t give up, make way.