Scary Scary Goals – #IWSG

Happy New Year! It’s the first Wednesday of the month, and that means it’s time for my monthly post for the Insecure Writer’s Support Group. It’s a blog hop!

Shout out to Alex J. Cavanaugh, who created this amazing group of insecure writer/bloggers which has been going strong for years!  This month, his fab co-hosts for the January 7 posting of the IWSG will be Elizabeth Seckman, Lisa Buie-Collard, Chrys Fey, and Michelle Wallace!

This month we were asked to introduce ourselves. In my non-writing life, I am the executive director of a non-profit organization that provides bereavement support to families after the death of a child. I’m also raising my four children, two dogs, three guinea pigs, and find that I am constantly volunteering for and taking on more things than I can reasonably handle. But more on that in a bit. ;) I’m a contributor over at This Dark Matter blog, where I’ve been tapping into the darker side. And finally, I write fantasy and am working on the sequel in my first series which will come out this summer.

Since it’s the new year, today I’d like to talk about something scary: goals.

I’ve been thinking a lot about goals. A lot. It’s that time of year, after all.

I took a class on setting and achieving goals at the end of the year that really got my mind moving in the direction of meaningful change. I’ve been taking a look at all areas of my life and taking stock of what’s working and what’s not. I thought for a long time about what I want my life to be in the future. I took notes. Lists were made. It was good.

This process made me think about what it is I want to be doing in the world. Who I want to be.

In this class, there was a list of criteria to help you make a good goal great. Aside from specificity, a deadline, an action plan, and other touch points, one key to making a great goal was the measure of how much discomfort this goal caused.

The more discomfort, the better.

The reason for this is a goal that doesn’t cause you discomfort is probably too easy and will likely result in you growing bored with it, and never accomplishing the goal.

Well, I am very uncomfortable. Because I have a list of goals, almost all of which have me stepping outside my comfort zone. I’ve already been working on most of them in the first week of the new year, and the result is some big adjustments in my world.

This is exciting, but it’s also scary because keeping this up means things are going to really change. The changes are all for the better. If I am successful, I will have an amazing year of personal and professional growth. But damn… these goals will take a lot of work, emotionally and physically.

I woke up this morning feeling tired and without a shred of the oomph I usually have. Maybe it was the cloudy sky, maybe it was the late night reading followed by the early morning kids-to-school, but whatever the root cause, I didn’t want to do any of the work this morning. Not one bit. And that’s scary because I really don’t want to miss any of my goals this year. It’s too soon for this feeling!

I know myself well enough to embrace this as a day where I can do less. Knowing that I am allowed a break from constantly doing. The good news is I have an accountability partner who I can call to talk this through and juice up on some oomph!

I hope the first week of the new year finds you feeling inspired and looking ahead with hope and some goals to strive for. As for me, I have a call to make. ;)


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