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Happy New Year! It’s the first Wednesday of the month, and that means it’s time for my monthly post for the Insecure Writer’s Support Group. It’s a blog hop!

Shout out to Alex J. Cavanaugh, who created this amazing group of insecure writer/bloggers which has been going strong for years!  This month, his fab co-hosts for the January 7 posting of the IWSG will be Elizabeth Seckman, Lisa Buie-Collard, Chrys Fey, and Michelle Wallace!

This month we were asked to introduce ourselves. In my non-writing life, I am the executive director of a non-profit organization that provides bereavement support to families after the death of a child. I’m also raising my four children, two dogs, three guinea pigs, and find that I am constantly volunteering for and taking on more things than I can reasonably handle. But more on that in a bit. ;) I’m a contributor over at This Dark Matter blog, where I’ve been tapping into the darker side. And finally, I write fantasy and am working on the sequel in my first series which will come out this summer.

Since it’s the new year, today I’d like to talk about something scary: goals.

I’ve been thinking a lot about goals. A lot. It’s that time of year, after all.

I took a class on setting and achieving goals at the end of the year that really got my mind moving in the direction of meaningful change. I’ve been taking a look at all areas of my life and taking stock of what’s working and what’s not. I thought for a long time about what I want my life to be in the future. I took notes. Lists were made. It was good.

This process made me think about what it is I want to be doing in the world. Who I want to be.

In this class, there was a list of criteria to help you make a good goal great. Aside from specificity, a deadline, an action plan, and other touch points, one key to making a great goal was the measure of how much discomfort this goal caused.

The more discomfort, the better.

The reason for this is a goal that doesn’t cause you discomfort is probably too easy and will likely result in you growing bored with it, and never accomplishing the goal.

Well, I am very uncomfortable. Because I have a list of goals, almost all of which have me stepping outside my comfort zone. I’ve already been working on most of them in the first week of the new year, and the result is some big adjustments in my world.

This is exciting, but it’s also scary because keeping this up means things are going to really change. The changes are all for the better. If I am successful, I will have an amazing year of personal and professional growth. But damn… these goals will take a lot of work, emotionally and physically.

I woke up this morning feeling tired and without a shred of the oomph I usually have. Maybe it was the cloudy sky, maybe it was the late night reading followed by the early morning kids-to-school, but whatever the root cause, I didn’t want to do any of the work this morning. Not one bit. And that’s scary because I really don’t want to miss any of my goals this year. It’s too soon for this feeling!

I know myself well enough to embrace this as a day where I can do less. Knowing that I am allowed a break from constantly doing. The good news is I have an accountability partner who I can call to talk this through and juice up on some oomph!

I hope the first week of the new year finds you feeling inspired and looking ahead with hope and some goals to strive for. As for me, I have a call to make. ;)

 

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  1. Hi Corinne! Happy New Year!! I hope you can complete your list of goals for this year. I’m making a lot of changes too for 2015 and I’m excited. Hopefully we’ll both have success. :)

    IWSG Co-host

  2. I can so relate to the goals and the fear and the wanting to change how I see/do things. I have goals that are scary too. My usual habit is to retreat and not get them done, using some excuse or another. But this time, this year, this book, I want to, like you, step outside my comfort zone and make my success (es) happen. Good luck with yours, and thanks for commenting on my blog. Took me some time to find yours, but made it! Happy New Year! I don’t use my WP acct very much, but that might change in the near future…

  3. Thanks for taking the time to find me Lisa! I don’t know how to change the way my comments link. Must investigate. Perhaps in the meantime I should add a link in the comments I leave! ;)

  4. Needs to cause discomfort – that makes sense. It’s like appreciating something we’ve really worked hard for more than something just handed to us.

  5. Great post. Really great. It is so honest and uplifting. Some days we are just tired. Maybe you’re coming down with something. I woke up with a stuffy head today. Blah. I exercised this week at the YMCA, power class. So, I’m sore. I think I’ll take a nap this afternoon, and NOT feel guilty about it. We can only do so much. Your life is very full. Take a rest when you need it. (I also have a friend that I call when I’m feeling schlumpy.) Cheers to goals, energy, and resting!

    1. Thank you Mary. Sorry you’re feeling under the weather. I woke today feeling fine health-wise, and had some of my energy back. I think I really just needed a day off. Here’s to goals, energy, and resting!

  6. I think my problem is that I’m not afraid of goals enough. Setting a goal is way too easy for me, so I tend to set multiple impossibly high goals. For this year, I’m going to try to focus on just four. Maybe five.

    1. Hi James. I totally understand that, too! One of the things I learned over the course of my goal-setting session this year was to have a reality check. It makes the goals reasonable and attainable, but adds to the pressure, IMO, because now that my goal passed the reality check, I have NO excuses! ;)

      Good luck with your plans for the year!

    1. Thanks Alex. My job can be emotionally draining, but it is equally fulfilling. It is one of those areas of life where there is an unmet need for support, and having lived it myself, it is definitely a calling to be available to support those who are seeking it. But, just like having someone to support me in my goals, I have people to support me in my work. So I am able to keep on keeping on. <3

    1. You can do eet! I have a series of blog posts planned to help with goals and planning. :) It is very exciting. Good luck with your goals!

  7. I accidentally commented in the wrong post..bad me…but here’s what I said:
    Yes! I can relate! It’s often about keeping those goals in mind, but also being kind to yourself. That class you took sounds fabulous.

  8. Thanks for stopping by my blog today. Your book looks amazing–must add to my TBR! And do let me know if you’d like review/cover reveal for the next one. I don’t set annual goals myself, instead I make up deadlines for myself and put them onto my calendar so I can obsess about achieving them. My kids think this is very funny.

    1. Thanks Barb! You’ll have to let me know when you read it. :) I will definitely reach out for a cover reveal and review this summer! Awesome. :) Deadlines are good, too! Hope you meet and beat all of them in 2015!

  9. Hi Corinne

    Thanks for stopping by my blog on IWSG day.
    With regards to goals, this captured my attention: “the more discomfort, the better.” That about nails it.
    In order to grow as writers, we have to be prepared to step outside of our comfort zones… stretch ourselves a little… it is scary though… :)
    Writer In Transit

    1. agree!! I keep thinking about that little discomfort tidbit. It really is true that it means the goal is good. But dayum… I’d rather not.

  10. Hi, Corinne,
    I love the new look. I know all about feeling I have to do so much more than I can do in a day.
    It’s hard to just let things be, knowing that there’s another day and another opportunity.
    WIth that said, being better organized works wonders in helping me achieve my goals.

  11. Thanks Joy! I love my new website layout. I have finally sworn myself off tinkering with it. That could be the biggest tool for procrastination. Ever. Balance is something I seek regularly with juggling all the things. I don’t mind having a hundred balls in the air so much, but the frantic feeling when it’s all happening at once needs to go. Cheers for being organized!!

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