I drafted this post weeks ago and eschewed it for things more positive, but it lurks and niggles at me to let it out, and so I must share it with you…
I have been thinking about strings. Strings attached to things. The ugly invisible strings that get tied up in your stuff when someone comes along who pretends to be someone they are not. The strings that get pulled upon when someone does something for you and then forgets to tell you there were strings attached. You look around in wonder at these strings and can’t comprehend how you got tangled in them. Even the Godfather had the courtesy to make his strings clear when he said, “some day, and that day may never come…“
Honestly, I don’t really understand the motivation behind the actions of those who would attach strings to their things. My husband says I am naive. I think maybe most people are simply mostly good. Isn’t it enough to do the right thing, or the nice thing, or the kind thing, and move along with a lighter heart and no strings? Why is it that some people feel the need to be there, help, and support their friends while making it clear they are keeping a tally on the what-have-you-done-for-me-lately list. Don’t they see it diminishes any act of goodwill they undertake as ultimately self-serving?
The particular situation that prompted this little wanna-be rant is not a simple case of I helped you, now you help me. Oddly, it has happened twice now, with almost identical details although from two completely different people. It is more along the lines of, thanks for helping me out with the gigantic favor you did for me, now, if you would take care of this little bit of extra I would be happy to donate to your charity. How’s that for a reason to think twice about helping someone out?
Needless to say, my reply to that was thanks but no thanks, we do not attach or accept strings. See there, a strict “no strings” policy has been part of our credo since way back. It isn’t my fault I am not returning your calls asking help with strings, it’s company policy.
Thanks for reading… do you know someone who uses strings?